Bride Upset After Bridesmaid Asks to Skip Rehearsal Dinner for Cheaper Flight

A bride is trying to figure out how to deal with a bridesmaid who wants to skip her rehearsal dinner so she can book a cheaper flight to her wedding. 

The bride shared in a post on Reddit’s popular “Am I The A——” forum that her bridesmaid, who lives five hours away, recently informed her last minute that she hadn’t yet booked her flight and enlisted the bride’s help with which flight “options” would be best.

She noted that one of these options would “cause her to entirely miss the rehearsal and dinner,” while one of the other options was twice as expensive but would give her “plenty of time to be at rehearsal and the dinner.”

“She basically ‘asked’ if it was ‘okay with me’ for her to miss rehearsal and dinner in order to save $500,” the bride said, adding that she was “sad and disappointed” over her friend “making HER travel MY problem.”

The Redditor also shared that the bridesmaid has “bowed out of every other wedding event” and she said that it “feels so ridiculous” that she would ask her “to miss the literal night before” the nuptials.

“I’m not a bridezilla, nor a friend that asks a lot of people. I just want people to honor me and our friendships for two nights!,”  she said before asking the community on their thoughts.

One commenter said, “It sucks [that] your friend has been flaky and not that into your wedding planning, and I’d suggest not including her in future endeavors,” adding that she would “recommend letting it go” unless she was the maid of honor.

Another responded, “I’m sorry you’re going through this, but just know if they want to be there they will be.”

One Redditor offered the woman advice on how to handle the situation with her friend, telling her to inform the woman, “Hey, it’s disappointing to hear you don’t have a flight booked. Having you there means a lot to me, and I wanted a special role for you as my bridesmaid.”

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“I see there’s a bigger financial lift involved now for you to attend the rehearsal,” she continued. “I can’t make the choice for you of course, but please let me know what you end up booking.” 

Others noted that the bride should make it clear that she really wanted her friend to be there for the rehearsal and dinner, including one person who said, “if you’re expecting her to be there (and I think she should be) you need to say that.”